Finding Mr. Right is no easy feat in today’s world, but rest assured, it can be done.
It doesn’t matter where you look. Mr. Right could be anywhere. So can Mr. Wrong. You may very well find Mr. Right in a bar and that jerk you dated for a month could absolutely be an upstanding member of his church. Mr. Right may even be logging on right now to update his online dating profile.
It only matters that you know what you are looking for. You gotta know which guys to drop like a hot potato and which guy to keep around. That’s not as hard as it seems.
Basically, there are five types of men in the world. They are: Sucker, Loser, Jerk, Over-Achiever & Mr. Right. Once you know the tell-tale signs of each type of guy, then picking Mr. Right out of a lineup will become a great deal easier.
Here’s a brief description of each to help you out.
The Sucker: He’s the guy who makes sure everything is absolutely perfect for your dates. He gets the door for you, picks up the check, watches chick flicks with you, rubs your feet and doesn’t even pressure you for sex. Sounds heavenly, right?
The problem is that he’s too perfect. He’s trying too hard to make this thing work. He calls you all the time because he thinks you want him to. Truth is you’d just like to be left alone for a day. He interrupts your girls night out by bringing you flowers, completely ignoring the fact that you are hosting a bachelorette party for your best friend. He’s just sucking the life out of you.
You know that if you marry this guy you will never want for anything again. Problem is that you want to assert your independence and prove to the world that you don’t need a man to take care of you. This is the one you hate to cut loose, if you don’t you will just suffocate.
The Loser: This guy’s hot. He’s really hot. He’s skated by on his looks since he was five and his dad’s checkbook has probably helped him out more than a few times.
Sure, he treats you well and takes you to all those fancy restaurants. Then after dinner, he takes you back to his mom’s house. If not his mom’s house, then the house that his mom pays for. Maybe he’s still working on that six-year bachelor’s degree in physical education. Maybe he even works part time. And yes, he’s incredibly easy on the eyes.
The problem, aside from the fact that he’s 30 years old and his parents are still footing his bills, is that this guy lacks any ambition at all. He may tell you how wonderful you are, but there’s no chance he will ever commit to anything beyond a romp in the hay every few days. Why would he? Mommy and Daddy are still taking care of all his other needs. Unless you are willing to support his lifestyle, you’d better pass on this one.
The Jerk: He seems harmless at first, and the fast car and well-toned body just reel you in. Then you start to notice little things, like him paying more attention to his reflection in the rear-view mirror than to the road, and the constant phone calls he gets from girls he calls “sweetheart” and “darlin.'”
If you ever confront Mr. I’m-so-wonderful about the calls, he just brushes you off and says that you are being paranoid. The problem MUST be you, because, well, he’s perfect and he does nothing wrong and you are lucky to even have him in your life.
Here’s the thing though, if he starts out treating you like you care the problem, it will only get worse. He will never own up to the fact that he is NOT God and your relationship is doomed to fail.
Kick him to the curb, maybe if that happens often enough he the chip will fall off his shoulder.
The Over-Achiever: This guy is the one who finished college at the ripe old age of 16 and who has already climbed the corporate ladder to become vice-president of whatever company was lucky enough to hire him. He’s only 22. (So what if you are 33?)
Again, he provides nothing but the finest dining experiences for you and he sends the most Belgian chocolates to your office on Valentine’s Day. You’ve only been dating three weeks and already he’s presented you with a pair of diamond earrings. That’s how he marked his territory. See, he’s not around enough for anyone to know that the boyfriend you talk about is not an imaginary friend.
Every time you think you will finally get a nice, quiet evening out his cell phone rings or there is some emergency meeting at the office. He’s not cheating on you, not literally. He is just in love with his work. He has to be the best at what he does and what he does has nothing to do with building a relationship.
It could have been fun; the gifts and all, but a wise woman knows that marrying a man who is already married to his job is a recipe for disaster.
Mr. Right: Mr. Right comes in a a variety of packages. He may or may not be the most handsome guy you know, but something about him still takes your breath away. Mr. Right may not be able to shower you with the finest luxuries money can buy and he may not always remember to get the door for you. He makes you laugh though.
Mr. Right absolutely adores you. He doesn’t mind that your hair sticks up in the morning, in fact, he thinks it’s cute. He doesn’t mind your morning breath or the fact that you want alone time once in a while. He just wants you to be happy.
Even more important though, is that you don’t care that he’s 29 and thinking about a career change or that his hair is thinning. You are smitten. You can’t help but think about him when you wake up each morning. you can’t wait to tell him the good news about your promotion at work; even though you’ve always told you mom stuff like that first.
He’s your everything. You need him and you are okay with that. You don’t need to prove your independence to him. He’s happy helping you or letting you take care of things. You are perfect together.
Here’s the thing; while the jerks and suckers do definitely exist, when you meet Mr. Right, all those things you wanted and needed from a relationship just fall into place. Those other guys never clicked from the beginning. Mr. Right probably did click from the moment you laid eyes on him.
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